ONE YEAR AFTER: A STORY OF SURVIVAL, LOVE & GOD’S GRACE

On a day like this “April 4th, 2025” my family experienced something unspeakable.

Today marks exactly one year since the day my dear wife slumped on her way to work during her night shift, sometime after 7:00pm. A day I will never forget as long as I live.

That evening, I had gone to visit my parents. I was supposed to return home early to stay with our son while my wife prepared for work. I called her and told her to take our son along to work because I planned to branch at the barbershop before coming home.

Little did I know that life was about to test everything I believed in.

While at the barbershop, my phone kept ringing, but I didn’t notice. Something suddenly pushed me to check my screen and boom what I saw froze my heart. 

I saw Multiple missed calls.

Then a message from her boss, Dr. Dogara, the Medical Director: “YOUR WIFE SLUMPED ON HER WAY TO WORK.”

My hands shook. 

I called immediately. He confirmed it.

My first question was to know “How she was” but the doctor said “they’re doing their best” hmmm

Secondly; I asked; “How is our son?” He told me our boy was safe. That she had sensed she was passing out and cried for help from people she recognized nearby. They rushed her to the hospital where she worked.

He simply said: “Just come to the hospital.” I didn’t need anyone to explain “I knew the situation was critical”.

The Run of Fear

I ran like a man chased by destiny itself. My legs felt lighter than my body, but my heart carried a thousand terrifying thoughts.

When I arrived and saw my wife lying there helpless, I broke down. Yes, I cried 😭 .

I cried like a child. People told me not to cry in front of her, but how could I not? Seeing the woman you love fighting for her life changes a man instantly.

While praying silently outside, the doctor called me again.

“We are referring her to JUTH.”

Before I could process it, the referral letter was already in my hands.

That was when reality truly hit me. This was more serious than I imagined.

Help When All Seemed Impossible

I informed both families and began arranging transportation. Ironically, almost everyone had limited fuel that night. It felt like the enemy had planned everything.

Then, like divine intervention, her cousin Ayuba (Abobo) appeared with his tricycle.

Inside that tricycle were:

 • My landlord, Mr. Geoffrey Lawrence

 • My mother-in-law

 • Myself

 • And my wife, lying helplessly across my lap

As we moved, I begged God in tears 😭:

“Lord, please don’t take her not because of me, but because of our son.”

Our little boy, Manny, was only one year and six months old then. As God will make, we had just weaned him. We left him in the care of her colleague, Nanklin, who was also on night duty. before I came take him the next day to my younger brother and his dear wife Mr. & Mrs. Harrison H. Deshe who took care of this boy as theirs all through the period my wife was hospitalized.

The Battle Begins

At JUTH, I carried my wife myself straight into the Accident & Emergency Unit. And as God will make it, treatment started instantly.

But the night was only beginning. Soon, nurses rushed in with oxygen equipment.

And then, boom 💥 She was placed on oxygen. That moment marked the beginning of 19 unforgettable days and experience.

Nineteen days between life and death.

Nineteen days of prayers, tears, exhaustion, and faith.

Anyone who saw her then doubted she would survive the next hour, but she is perfectly fine today and better than ever.

My wife truly saw hell on earth. The photos 📸 i attached was our first night in JUTH. The gist for the 19days experience will be a story for another day 😢.  

And as her caregivers, I witnessed a kind of pain words cannot fully capture.

Lessons Written in Tears

During that season, I finally understood the meaning of the vows: 👉🏼 “In sickness and in health.” 🙆🏾‍♂️

I stayed by her without blinking because I feel no one can take care for her for me the way I could 💕. Even when my mother inlaw wasn’t strong enough physically, God supplied strength beyond human ability for her to stay at the hospital too 💪🏾.

I learned:

• The power of prayer

• The meaning of standing by the people you love

• The value of health and the free air we breathe

• The mystery of God’s timing and seasons

• That faith is strongest when hope looks impossible

Gratitude From a Thankful Heart

Thank God almighty for all he has done for me and my family and specially sparing the life of my dear wife. 

I remain deeply grateful to my immediate family The Hannaniah’s Family:

• Dad & Mom - Mr. & Mrs. Hannaniah Jinawa Deshe you both are the best parents in the world. I love you now and forever, may God sustain you both with good health and longevity.

• My brother & wife - Mr. Harrıson Deshe, and Mrs. Magdalene Harrison Deshe for taking care of our son, Manze Dorian Deshe and today be call you both (Daddy Manny & Mommy Manny) 💕 

• My sisters - Inziana Blessing Deshe, Sandra Deshe, and Vonke Grace Deshe

If there is another life, I still choose to be born into the DESHE family.

Special appreciation to:

• The Jinanwa family 

• And the entire Unintimidated DESHE family

•  My dear mother Inlaw: Mrs. Hanatu Bulus (Mmayo) and my entire Inlaw’s for their love and support.

And heartfelt gratitude to:

 • Staff & Management of the Deputy Governor’s Office

 • ECWA Goodnews Church Gamajigo

 • ECWA Church Dogon Dutse

 • COCIN Church Fudawa

 • ECWA Church Nabor Gwong

 • ECWA Church Lamingo

 • PMAN Plateau State Chapter

 • Friends, neighbors, fellowship groups, colleagues, relatives, well-wishers and whoever I couldn’t mention (either in person or group) kindly forgive me but you’re truly in our hearts 💞. Your prayers, love, support and encouragements carried us when strength failed.

When Pain Met Purpose

That year became the hardest season of my life. We thought recovery would take forever 😔.

Yet shockingly, that same year brought blessings we could never have achieved in 2years 🙏 ”na me know wetin I dey talk and am not exaggerating”. Clearly, God was at work.

The full story of those 19 days could fill an entire book. I saw suffering, fear, miracles, kindness, and divine intervention all at once. If we meet you go hear gist 😂 

This is more than just a story or remembrance, It is:

• An acknowledgment of God’s grace and power

• An encouragement to anyone who feels forgotten

• A reminder that God still writes miracles

• A testimony of love proven in adversity

Our Declaration

Today we stand as living witnesses: It is not over until God says it is over.

Happy Survival Anniversary, my dear wife Mrs. Christiana Rairom  Christopher Deshe.

God kept you for a purpose: and may His purpose continually be fulfilled in your life.

To God be all the glory. Amen 🙏.

From: 

Mr. Christopher H. Deshe (Qriztyle Deshe),

Husband.